Destiny believers who have been together for longer are more likely to overlook issues, fooling themselves into thinking they are a better match because of the amount of time they have been together. They might give someone a longer chance than other people might. It would seem that romantic beliefs remain fixed over time. So, once a destiny believer, always a destiny believer. Once people hit their 20s and 30s personalities are pretty stable.
The "growth" beliefs about relationships tend to lead to better communication and greater long-term satisfaction. Problems can even make the couple stronger Credit: Getty Images. The two implicit theories do not need to be mutually exclusive, though. And we can still alter the ways we express those beliefs. We would expect that past experiences will shape how we approach new relationships.
They say the course of true love never did run smooth — but a greater awareness of our own romantic tendencies might just help us navigate those bumps and turns along the way. William Park is williamhpark on Twitter. Javier Hirschfeld created the artwork for this article. If you liked this story, sign up for the weekly bbc.
In Depth Psychology. The dark side of believing in true love. Share using Email. By William Park. Old-fashioned romantics might have the wrong idea about love. Strong beliefs in true love could be blinding you to both the good and bad in your partner, with sometimes toxic results. Psychologists have found two scales that influence how we start and maintain relationships. To find out how you score, take the two quizzes below.
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Not even the creators of the movie can achieve the standard they are promoting. Enjoy the occasional rom-com as entertainment if you must, but do so in the way you do science fiction, because it is about as realistic. Second, work deliberately to make sure that your romance grows beyond the white-hot flame that characterizes new love. On the contrary, the most joyful, enduring romances are those that are able to evolve from passionate to companionate love—which still has plenty of passion, but is fundamentally based in deep friendship.
Read: The kind of love that makes people happiest. Finally, ask any potential partners about their destiny beliefs right from the start. Looking for a realist is a better bet. E nduring love is not some kind of cosmic switch, turned on once and for all by mysterious forces.
Rather, it is a dial that we can turn up over time by the commitments we choose to make and keep to one another. Romantic love is very much like any other important pursuit: Success comes from our ongoing effort; satisfaction from a job well done.
Read: The first lesson of Marriage Challenges and low points are not evidence that partners are not meant to be together; rather, they are inevitable, and opportunities for growth. Long-term romance is such a sweet adventure precisely because it is not destiny. Skip to content Site Navigation The Atlantic.
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